It is no longer news that TV girl, Toke Makinwa, is now an author.
Her new book 'On Becoming' will be released soon, but Bellanaija was privileged to get a copy of the book where she shared her incredible survival story. In the book, the beautiful woman revealed what happened all through the long years she dated her ex-hubby, Maje Ayida, and what also went down in the marriege before the final straw that broke the camel's back when she got to know that the other woman was pregnant. Toke revealed details as she worked towards her healing, the break ups and make ups, how she contemplated suicide.
[caption id="attachment_1062307" align="alignnone" width="600"] Toke Makinwa's On Becoming book[/caption]
Here are some excerpts below:
Concerning her wedding to ex-husband, Maje Ayida, Toke Makinwa wrote:
“It was my wedding day. I was happy, yet I was waiting for something to happen. Maje had disappointed me three times before. We would pick a date to go to the wedding registry and he would call it off. It wasn’t until we shared our first dance that I finally believed that it had happened. We got back together (after a quarrel because Maje took ‘an ex’ to a party he bluntly told Toke he wasn’t taking her to and he and the ex were ‘touching freely and kissing’)… Maje invited me to Abuja…. As I was putting away my things I saw all kinds of feminine items – earrings on the dresser, sanitary pads in the drawer….”
[caption id="attachment_1062322" align="alignnone" width="397"] Toke Makinwa and ex-hubby on their wedding day[/caption]
About stumbling on her ex-husband's sextape and bleaching, Toke wrote:
“At some point while we were dating, Maje had asked if he could tape us having sex. This was a new one for me but I would do anything to keep my man, or so I thought, and so I obliged. But I was nervous afterwards because I didn’t want the tape to get into the wrong hands. I dragged the file back to his desktop, and I could tell from the stilled image in the video that the person in it was not me. I clicked play and watched horrified as Maje had sex with Anita. Watching that video, all of the inadequacies I thought I had dealt with over the years came rushing back.
I had been with Maje from when I was an immature teenager, through my twenties, and for most of those years, Anita had been the standard I had to live up to. I had lightened my skin at some point – Anita was half Lebanese and half Ibibio, and Maje made me feel like he preferred her lighter skin.”
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Concerning how she discovered Anita was pregnant, Toke wrote:
"I got on my knees in front of him, my voice calm as I can make it. “Maje, you can’t keep lying. What is going on? He walks away, leaving me there with my heart in my hands. I see him pacing, like he is having a private conversation. Then all of a sudden, he walks back to the living room, looks straight into my eyes and says, ‘She’s pregnant’.
I fall to the ground. My head…. ‘What’s she having?’
‘A boy,’ he says.
‘How long have you known?’
‘I’ve always known…. It was what I thought I wanted,’ he says.''
About her ex-husband having another child from the other woman, Toke wrote:
"There was a 70-day fasting and prayer programme at my church. I joined in: I was praying for Maje and I. On the final day, I asked God to reveal why Maje and I couldn’t find peace with each other. I opened my email address and typed Maje’s email address in. I went through email after email until I found pictures of a boy that looked exactly like Maje…."
If you would like to read the book in full, Toke will be launching it in Nigeria this Sunday, November 27, 2016.